Finding Contentment

As a young mom and wife, I had a subscription to a magazine called “Taste of Home”. It only came out every other month and was filled with yummy recipes made by home cooks. I would get so excited when it arrived in the mail. I couldn’t wait to have a quiet moment to take it all in. They had a section in the magazine that included a kitchen makeover as well as a story sharing a portion of the home cook’s life. It always seemed like she was a wife and mother who loved to cook on their beautiful farm. I dreamed of having her life.

We were super young with two little boys just trying to survive. I had to work but my dream was to be a stay-at-home. I wanted to cook amazing meals, play games, do crafts, read stories, and be the most amazing mom that you would see on 1950’s television shows. Instead, I was tired, we ate fast food, and I went to bed most nights wishing I had just had more patience with my kids. But I would continue to dream that someday I would be living on that farm with my adorable family, surrounded by my cute animals, eating amazing meals, with my perfectly behaved kids.

Even as I got older and my kids moved out, I still dreamed of having this farm. Instead of having it filled with my kids, it would now be filled with my amazing and adorable grandkids. I would spend so much time on looking for the perfect place. I would find amazing homes with lots of potential. I would dream about redecorating it and making it my own. I would envision all the amazing things we would be doing on the farm with our grandbabies. Except we don’t have any grandbabies (yet), we can’t afford a farm, and I can barely take care of my tiny yard now so I’m not sure why I feel I would be able to handle the work on a farm. 

I found myself living in this fantasy world. If I was feeling overwhelmed with my day I would open up and start dreaming away. The problem with this was that I was starting to become really discontent with my own life. I would fall in love with a house and actually be sad when it was sold knowing I would never be able to own it in the first place. I realized I had a problem. I had a addiction. I needed to break this addiction and vowed never to go on the app again. I decided it was time to live in my reality, which is pretty amazing, and stop dreaming about some other life. 

It’s amazing how easily we can find ourselves being discontent. Whether it’s the house we live in, the car we drive, the family that we wanted, or any number of toys that are out there, we can find ourselves wishing we had something different. We look at other people’s lives and from the outside, they seem so perfect so we wish we were them. We dream of landing the perfect job and once we get it we realize somebody else is making more money and suddenly we are no longer happy. Or, it could be that you wish you were taller, shorter, blonder, skinnier, more muscular, more beautiful, had more money and the list goes on. 

For so many years I have struggled with my weight and I am finally at a number on the scale I never thought I would see again. Instead of being joyful about this, I am complaining about my body. It doesn’t look like I thought it would. I have saggy skin, my tummy isn’t flat, and I can’t find clothes that fit my curvy body. I had a vision in my head of what I should look like or how I would feel once I reached this goal and thought that would make me content.

Contentment means you appreciate what you have and where you are in life instead of wishing things were different. But how do we achieve this? Here are some steps that can lead you to a life of being content:

  1. Stop living in a fantasy world. Make sure you are present in your current life and appreciate all that you have been blessed with.
  2. Practice Gratitude. Make a list of everything you have that you are thankful for. Notice the good things in your life and truly appreciate them.
  3. Stop comparing yourself to others. It may seem like their lives are perfect but I guarantee they are probably not. The false image you may have of others is definitely going to cause you to feel unhappy. Refocus your energy on becoming the best you. God has given you a special gift or talent. Use it to honor Him.
  4. Break the buying habit. Try to remember the last items that you purchased that you thought would bring you happiness only to wish you had something else shortly after. Spending all of your money and going into debt will not bring you contentment.
  5. Be happy for others who have what you want. Jealousy is ugly. Take control of your attitude and find joy with where you are at and with what you have and be kind and supportive of others.

God has been so good to me! I am going to stop focusing on the things that I think will bring me joy and start being more thankful for all the things that I have already been blessed with.

My prayer would be that you too can find contentment and that it will lead you to have a happy and healthy life.

1 Timothy 6:6-8 But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that.

7 thoughts on “Finding Contentment

  1. Thank you for sharing! I love hearing your stories and you just being real!
    Ha ha jealousy is so UGLY on anyone over 2 years old!
    Keep up the good work!

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  2. Beautiful picture!!! Being thankful always in all circumstances is something I always need to work on!!! But I know it helps in being content!!! Thank you for the five encouragements to help in this area!!!

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  3. SO TRUE! SO TRUE! How important it is to appreciate what we have and not be envious of others. If we trust God and believe He has mapped out our life for His good, then we should believe we are exactly where we should be. No one has a perfect life. But trusting that God has you in the palm of His hand makes the life you’re living a blessing.

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