Being told you are controlling is not necessarily a compliment. People who are controlling usually like things done a certain way and want others to do as they have said. Not that I have any experience with this at all, but come on people, my way is the best and your way is wrong!
There are many things that are out of our control. We can’t control other people, as much as we would like to. We can’t control certain life events. We can’t control natural disasters, etc. The one thing we can control is ourselves.
When we are struggling with something in our life, like making good food choices, we tend to say things like “I just couldn’t control myself” or “I have no self-control”. When you say these things, it is most likely that you had a battle in your mind, with yourself, and you gave in to your temptation.
Your habits and memories are stored in the subconscious mind. This can be good, such as knowing how to function in life, or it can be bad if we have bad habits we need to break. If, for example, you are craving chocolate, your subconscious mind will tell you that it is comforting and you should have some now. We are allowing our mind to control us and it’s time we take our power back.
Reprogramming your subconscious mind is not easy but it can be done. The first step is to try and pay attention to these conversations you are having with yourself. Here is a scenario I have had many times:
I am hungry…or am I? I would really like some cookies. As I look in the cupboard I realize we don’t have any cookies in the house. But, I have everything I need to make homemade cookies and they taste so much better. I start thinking that maybe this would not be a good idea. If I make these cookies I will most likely eat more than I should. I will feel horrible if I gain weight this week. I could always ride my bike an extra day. No, that won’t happen. I can skip dinner to make up for the calories. That probably won’t happen either. I really shouldn’t make these cookies. But they sound so good. The warm, melting chocolatey goodness, right out of the oven will be so comforting. Maybe I will just have a few chocolate chips instead to satisfy the craving…When all is said and done, I have eaten the whole bag of chocolate chips. I am disappointed in myself. I get depressed knowing the scale will go up. I’m not even satisfied because I didn’t eat what I really wanted. I wish I would have just stopped myself.
Now, when these conversations start happening in my mind, I have learned to recognize it much sooner. I am learning to take control of the situation and just stop it from going down that path to begin with. I literally just say “Stop, this will not bring you comfort” and try and move on to something else. Your mind will tell you that this is hard, but if you keep pushing through even when it is hard, your subconscious will eventually catch up.
This is not something that is going to happen overnight. It will be a process of learning when it is happening, stopping it from continuing on, and reprogramming your mind so it now knows what is important to you.
Remind yourself that you are the one that is in control of this! Don’t allow your mind to keep your dreams and goals from coming true. Your subconscious will eventually catch up with you and it will get easier.
Now, just do what I said!